Episode 9: Loss and it's impact on marriage Part 2

Welcome back to episode 9 on when life stops, this is a show where we talk all things loss and we aim to equip you so you can find the tools and right coping mechanism to embrace grief and find healing and recovery.

Thank you for listening, So, in episode 8, we talked about the effects of loss on marriage and we discussed the encouraging percentage of marriages that make it after loss, the unique ways male and females grieve and the common problems marriages face after a loss.
So in this episode, which is a continuation, we would be talking about practical ways a couple can experience and deal with loss and their grieving journey both collectively and individually

We list some of the steps couples can take below.
1. Communication
2. Overcoming guilt
3. Giving each other permission to have fun and laugh 
4. Prioritise making new  memories
5. Forgive one another
6. Discuss healthy ways of preserving memories
7. Find a support group or others who have experienced a loss. 
8. Most importantly turn to God and seek his help comfort and healing. We emphasise that faith in God does not mean denying pain. We talked about being able to lament before God expressing our pain, disappointment, anger, and hurt and allowing him to heal us, we also encourage couples to stay in an atmosphere of praise and find comfort and healing in God’s word.

 

Jer 8:22 says this Is there no balm in Gilead? Is there no physician there? Why then is there no healing for the wound of my people? There is healing in God’s presence

9. Give yourself permission to live 
10. Helping other couples by sharing your story and supporting them through their own loss, helps to bring healing as you focus on someone else. Volunteering together also helps to foster and forge a bond in the marriage.
 

So loss as difficult as it is, does not have to be the end of a relationship. Life as a couple you once knew it has changed forever and you both have to be willing to relearn how to relate and communicate better to solve the problems that arise and equip yourself with the tools to embrace the new emotions that you would face.

Indeed you are not alone, be patient with one another and seek to take your eyes off yourself and include your partner in your journey.

Each couple would experience loss differently but the same love you had is still there and you have to uncover it and fight for it. With God on your side, you would not be a statistic.

We are available to help and support anyone who would require our help and you can reach us by sending us an email at 
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God bless you and see you next week.

Lots of love.
Detola and Stella.